S tudents will undoubtedly encounter roadblocks while on the path to educational success. Most of these roadblocks will be unanticipated, emerging out of a new subject area, learning disabilities, social and emotional struggles, or—as our students are currently facing with the coronavirus pandemic—environmental factors.
Many of these roadblocks merge and expand upon each other. When this happens, students find themselves overwhelmed by the mountainous tasks ahead of them and they become discouraged. According to research on the role of emotions in learning, addressing and empathizing with your child’s discouragement is the first step to getting them back on track. In part 1 of this series, let’s look at 3 steps parents can take to help their discouraged child:
Step 1: Empathize
We know this is hard sometimes. A child’s discouragement may manifest in a number of ways—rebellion, depression, anger, clowning around, etc.—but it is imperative for parents to prevent these behaviors from invoking negative emotions within themselves. A discouraged child must be met with empathy and understanding, not frustrations. As adults, we like to skip the emotions and shoot straight for a solution, but it is important for your child to feel HEARD first.
That’s why step one is to listen. If your discouraged child feels that their concerns are genuinely taken into consideration—not just as a means to a solution, but because you CARE—this will open up a dialogue. Don’t chastise. Don’t nag. Don’t listen to respond or to refute; listen to understand. You might be surprised at what you learn.
Step 2: Redirect Your Child’s Energy
Once your child feels valued and understood, it’s a good idea to redirect their energy and rebuild their confidence. Sometimes this entails taking a few minutes to pause, breathe, and reset; other times it’s about focusing on a new activity. Go out and get some fresh air, bake, draw, do something your child enjoys. Let them release their discouragement and become re-inspired by their passions.
Bonus points if you are able to redirect your child toward something they not only like but excel at. Reminding your child of their strengths will prepare them to take on the tasks they struggle with.
Step 3: Remind Your Child That They Aren’t Alone
Sometimes your child may feel like they are the only ones struggling to grasp a concept or cope in their new environment, and these factors can add layers to their discouragement. After all, “comparison is the thief of joy.” It is important to make it clear that your child is not the only one encountering these learning curves, and that they are not alone in their struggles: teachers and tutors are ready to help, and above all, they have you!
Join us for Part 2 next week!
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“For more than ten years, I have had the privilege of working in an educational institution which embraces high academic standards and lovingly tells every student who walks through the door that success is within their grasp. I have witnessed countless student transformations focused not just on academic achievement, but self-esteem and awareness that learning is a lifelong process. The compassionate and dedicated staff led by a tireless and respected leader has come to be synonymous with excellence and success. I am honored to be part of the Back to Basics Learning Dynamics family.”
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